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Asking about accent isn't rude
By SP_COP on September 29, 2015 | From
Asking about accent isn't rude Dear Abby: I have lived in the United States for 40 years. My first 32 years were spent in Puerto Rico, so I speak with an accent. My problem is almost everyone I meet asks me where I’m from. I usually try to disguise my discomfort by jokingly asking them to guess.

The truth is, I feel singled out as being different and not belonging. My friends and family tell me I’m being too sensitive, that people are just curious. I say it’s rude to ask such a personal question of a total stranger. Would it be impolite for me to point out that they’re asking for very personal information? Am I being too sensitive?

— Accented in Georgia

Dear Accented: I think so. People are often curious when someone has an accent that is different from theirs. I have a strong Midwestern accent, and people ask me where I’m from. They aren’t asking because they are nosy; they’re trying to be friendly.

Dear Abby: My four wonderful kids want to give their father and me a 50th wedding anniversary celebration next year. The problem is, everyone knows I’m an introvert who does not like going to parties. The thought of being the main focus of a big gathering fills me with dread.

My husband, who is outgoing, says I should let them do it for us if it will make them happy. I’d rather do something with just the two of us — like see a Broadway show. What do you think? Do I have to do this, even though I don’t want to?...
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NAMES: Jeanne Phillips
TAGS: accents, American advice columnists, asking, rude